With the middle of the semester here and midterms finally over, we can finally take a moment to sit back and relax. Go ahead, you earned it!
What’s that though? You spent so much time being a diligent, hard-working student that you find yourself in the unfortunate circumstances of being a loner girl on a campus large enough that you feel like just another face in the crowd?
FIND BUDDIES THROUGH STUDIES
Your school likely provides this either as an institution-provided service or in the form of a student-led club or group and they are certainly worth the time. Meet friends and simultaneously prepare yourself for any leftover midterms or exams you have coming up.
This can’t be a bad idea—if for some reason you don’t at least become acquaintances with others in the study group then you still come away ahead, having gotten a likely much needed refresher course in your studies.
Cliché, I know, but there are always mixers going on at college, school sanctioned get-togethers and social clubs that are more than happy to have another person along for whatever function they’re having. You’ll find yourself amongst fast friends in no time.
If you’re lucky enough to stumble onto a party independent of school, thrown by a frat or sorority say, that’s even better. Just remember to be yourself and have fun and fast friends are sure to be found. Silly as it sounds, you’re all in the same boat as college students and so social interaction with strangers is as hard for others as it is for you. Grit your teeth and bear the awkward moments and you’ll find common interests abound.
CONNECT WITH YOUR CAMPUS
I’m cheating a little bit with this one, as it is something that you should do year-round, not just during the mid-semester crunch—volunteer to better your campus. Whether you do this through joining a group dedicated to the betterment of your college or start a group on your own, it’s a guaranteed way of expanding your social circle and looks good on your resume.
Organizations that seek to help your campus with a cause are unique in that they attract certain types of people to them—outgoing, enthusiastic, and most of all, exceptionally nice. (They’d have to be in order to sacrifice time they could otherwise spend partying or studying to helping improve their school.)
These are ideal people to meet with because they are most likely to be open and friendly, and since you’ll be working with them for whatever reason then a rapport is bound to start up eventually.
So there you have it, a veritable buffet of choices for how to go about expanding your circle of friends for those of you who have few and wish for more, and a surefire way to entertain yourself for those of you who wish to find distractions during your midterm break. As always I hoped I’ve helped a few of you. As for me, I’m off to my study group to have a few laughs and hopefully learn something to guarantee me at least a B on my next exam. Now go on and make some friends, you!
Valeria Tirado is a junior at Rutgers University – New Brunswick with a major in Environmental and Business Economics and an Anthropology minor. She plans to get a Master’s from Rutgers in Food and Business Economics and attend NYU Stern for Economics after graduation. Valeria is the captain of her intramural volleyball team and can be found on Twitter at @valeriat94.